To learn how to discern evil companions.

I just thrived on looking outside of myself, and shut my emotions and feelings up tightly. As a summary: The power dynamic in the family is driven by your fear, fear that you will lose control. That’s the danger of leaving before you are ready. Will continued homeschooling ensure that all children love Jesus forever and ever? In order to transform this event into spiritual power, your son must begin to memorize large portions of Scripture and meditate on them day and night. A solid, clean break is the ticket. They shrunk our worlds, controlled our access to everything. After all, our children were learning and memorizing God’s word and learning to see life from a supposedly biblical worldview. For some reason, I was terrified of the consequences and they weren’t. But at the same time, if I had stayed on the homestead in my parents under cult rules, I may have just shriveled up and died inside. "I didn't realise how much of a hold the cult had on me.

Combine all of this with the blaming theology that is being created here, and a child is left feeling as though God hates them. I was just waiting for my punishment to begin. I was getting back on track. If you’re just starting this series, please read Part I and Part II first. It was easier to cover up scandals back then because there was no internet. I was halfway through being 19 when I secretly began corresponding with my sister again. Gothard employs some very specific cultic and fundamentalist strategies to blame, shame, and silence. "I met a British man there and soon realised how different my life was back in Oregon. I was just waiting for all hell to break loose. Video, Tech to spot sailor’s mood in tough global race. There was a Pharisaical mentality that seemed to justify these ridiculous standards. then nothing bad would have happened. When this happens, the law of God is very clear that the weaker must cry out for help or he will be equally guilty. The fact that one’s body may respond favorably to rape is one reason survivors keep quiet. This is yet another way Gothard deflects responsibility. I didn’t trust a Cristian any farther than I could throw one, but at the same time I feared what would happen to myself and him if we didn’t punch our tickets and do our bare minimum as Christians. and I introduced him to Christianity and the cult. JANE DOE V was regularly locked in the ITC “prayer room” for weeks on end. The were taught how to creatively solve problems.

Everything was spelled out to us in black and white as to how to live a life pleasing to God, including what music to listen to, what to wear, courtship vs. dating, even what kind of feminine hygiene products to use and when it is best to have sex with your husband!

TW: Content discusses rape, and other forms of abuse. It’s important to understand, though, that any child will inevitably be exposed to these ‘great evils’. They need to be told that they bear no blame, not told to avoid evil companions. Ms. Okhmatovski was also aware of the rape of another Plaintiff, JANE DOE V. Although the rape by an IBLP staff person had been reported to Gothard and the IBLP staff, it was never reported to the appropriate state child welfare agency or law enforcement. Editorial Note: TW, links will contain graphic images of assault and physical reactions. My family joined the Advanced Training Institute (ATI) when I was 13 years old. And I was also scared of the so called secular, worldly men because linking up with them meant my life would be cursed with demons attacking me, and my family would cut me off. They detail the reasons God not only did not prevent the abuse, but allowed it for His purposes.

I remember I was still working on the dishes in the sink when my mom found her empty room and sounded the alarm. Verses were quoted out of context, and sometimes used to support conclusions that didn’t sound right. They do not report to outside authorities. In keeping with the reconstructionist philosophy, he taught that every aspect of life should come under the governance of God’s law, and that following the so-called Biblical principles that he taught would bring success in life and result in godly children that would be a great positive influence in the world. Frequently, the only opportunity Ms. Lind would have to leave her room was for a counseling session with Bill Gothard. Placing the responsibility on them to avoid further abuse victimizes them even more. It would therefore be important for your son to confess his failure to do this and ask God to forgive him. I remember people being extraordinarily kind to the naive should-be-an-adult woman who was hiding in fear and watching the door.

The Institute of Basic Life Principles is run by Bill Gothard, who is currently facing a lawsuit for molestation, rape, and sexual harassment. We were encouraged by our friends to attend a Bill Gothard Basic Seminar, which we did. So, this is how my older sisters escaped. Imagine if a young child were asked to memorize this verse after his abuse–he may come to believe he has to earn God’s love through Bible memorization. I was especially afraid of Christian men because of the religious Christian monster my father was. In addition to the required standards, there was a heavy emphasis on authority and not questioning it. This ban was never enforced, and Gothard continued his pattern. But a child does not know this, and thus is likely to blame themselves. In some cases, it delays exposure to said influences. They were closed.

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